While everybody is excited to be married when they first get engaged, not everyone is excited to have to plan a wedding. After all, weddings have always been pretty big and grand affairs, and these days nothing seems to have changed. While your wedding might not be as lavish and extravagant as the celebrity weddings you see on TV, it’s still guaranteed to be a giant headache to plan- unless you follow a few simple tips.
First thing’s first; you need to approach planning the event with as positive and relaxed of an attitude as you possibly can. Think about it, if you weren’t planning it and didn’t have it all on shoulders, it should be a fun year! It’s like having a bunch of mini parties. You get to go to a fancy dress shop and try everything on until you find the perfect piece for you. You get to reconnect with all the members of your friends and family you’ve lost touch with. You get to try all sorts of delicious catered foods and cakes. People are always congratulating you, and people will throw you a couple parties like your bridal shower. When you think about it that way, it sounds pretty great, doesn’t it?
To ensure that you can just enjoy the process, you have to do a few preliminary steps. First, you need to start planning as early as humanly possible. While I’m not suggesting you jump up as soon as you say yes and break out a three ring binder filled with wedding magazines and potential venues, but starting the next day isn’t a bad idea. It’s a good idea to start planning with your fianc. At this time you should figure out what each of you are going to do as far as planning goes. If your fianc wants to be there every step of the way, that’s great. But if not, you need to know as soon as possible so that there aren’t any hurt feelings or broken expectations. This is also a good time to figure out a budget, and how you’re going to pay for it all. Some things will be more important to you. For instance, you might want to splurge to get venue you really want- but do you need to give fancy ring bearer gifts and flower girl gifts?
Once you have some duties assigned and have an idea about the scope of the wedding, you’re going to be in a good position to start bringing other people on board. It’s important that you start looking for a wedding planner as soon as possible, provided you are going to work with one. This will give you plenty of time to make sure you find the right person, and it will give the two or three of you plenty of time to bond so that they can learn what you want from the event.
After that, you can take things at a little more leisurely pace. It’s a good idea to try and find a venue next, as you’ll be more likely to find the place you want on the date you want for the price you want if you book it way ahead of time. Beyond that, you can relax and enjoy the process. Overall you want to first take care of those things that will produce the most good the longer they are in the picture. It doesn’t really matter how far in advance you book the band, but it does matter how long you have to develop a relationship with your planner.